As I am sure this will not surprise anyone; all of us are in therapy. Today we had an interesting session with Becca... She has been having a hard time sleeping lately so we have been working on trying to figure out why. We realized that some of her sleep issues are normal while other issues is not and some of them we still don't know. Today, one of my fears came true, she truly gets the outcome of Ian's disease. She mentioned not wanting to think about it, thinking about what? Being any only child. I replied she will NEVER be an only child, Ian will always be her brother. She was asked if she talks to her friends, her response, I don't always want to talk to them about it, I could get upset and cry and I don't want to do that. Besides they know as we are all close enough that they know and understand what I am going thru. While this sounds great, I wonder how true it really is. As adults we have a hard enough time understand what we go thru and why, so do 10 year olds really understand.
So this I am throwing out to all of her friends parents, to the parents at Chatsworth, to those who have played sports with her, to those how have gone to Hebrew school with her, gone to camp with her, I am sure you get it. Do you think your kids understand what she is going thru to the best of their ability or what she will be going thru when Ian is free to run, walk, scream, play or to just be all boy. Are you willing to talk to them on how to support her even when she may not think she needs it or when she does think she needs it, after all we as adults may not know how to do it. My Becca is going to need her friends...in addition, they may need her (will Ian being free affect your child). She goes thru things 99.9% of kids won't ever go thru and for that I love her more then words.
She, just like Ian, is my hero. Please help me to continue to help her, reach out to her friends and his friends, talk to them, reach out to me if you want/need to; thank you all for being a part of our village.
***Ian is doing well, there is nothing with him which brought all this about.