Monday, July 3, 2017

Unveiling - July 2, 2017

The unveiling is the formal dedication of the headstone. It is customary for the unveiling to take place 12 months after the funeral as a way to mark the end of the formal mourning period. However, the unveiling may take place any time after Sheloshim (30 days).

Jewish law requires that a grave be marked, but the type of marking and the headstone are not specified. 

When we first started talking about Ian's unveiling we realized a year was right at the beginning of the school year, not the best time for Becca. We then asked Becca if she would like it before camp or after camp, she said before camp so she could enjoy the rest of the summer and have fun at camp without the unveiling hanging over her head. Looking at the calendar July 2, 2017 was the best date. A few days ago I was at grief therapy and realized July 4th weekend held many different meaning for Ian. July 4th weekend 2009, everything started to go down hill, July 4th weekend 2012, we got a name VRK1, July 2, 2017 we had Ian's unveiling, 9 1/2 months after he left us. It was immediate family, helping us to get through the day, saying prayers and honoring Ian with his forever stone.

A thousand years, in the sight of our eternal and merciful Father, are but a day; the years of our life but a passing hour. He grants us life and life He has taken away; praised be His name.

Ian Alexander Scher has been taken from our midst. We are pained by the gap in our lives. Yet love is strong as death; the bonds love creates are eternal. And ours is the blessing of memory, through which the lives of our departed continue to be with us.

Almighty G-d, Master of mercy, whose compassion endures, let neither death nor sorrow have dominion over us. Grant us comfort, strength and consolation, as it is written: "The Lord shall be your enduring light, and the days of your mourning shall come to an end."

Bless us with love and peace, that we may serve You with a perfect heart. Accept our act of devotion, O Lord, as we consecrate this monument to the memory of Ian Alexander Scher with love and respect.

May his soul be bound up in the bond of life. Amen.  

At the rising of the sun and at its going down
We remember them.
At the blowing of the wind and the chill of winter
We remember them.
At the opening of the buds and in the rebirth of spring
We remember them.
At the blueness of he skies and in the warmth of summer
We remember them.
At the rustling of the leaves and in the beauty of autumn
We remember them.
At the beginning of the year and when it ends
We remember them.
As long as we live, they too will live; for they are now a part of us, as we remember them.
When we are weary and in need of strength
We remember them.
When we are lost and sick at heart
We remember them.
When we have joy we crave to share
We remember them.
When we have achievements that are based on theirs
We remember them.
As long as we live, they too will live; for they are now a part of us, as we remember them.

O Lord, as I stand at the grave of my beloved child, I tenderly recall the joys that he gave me during his lifetime. I remember how I enjoyed watching him grow and I am grateful for the time we had together. Though this time was brief, many were the blessings he brought into our home. The passage of years will never fill the void in my heart, nor can time soften the pain of bereavement. Though he is no longer in our midst, his memory shall forever be enshrined in my heart.

O merciful G-d, Giver of life, You have recalled what is Your own, and have taken him into Your loving care and keeping. Though my heart still grieves, may I, who have known the joys of parenthood, bring love and cheer into the lives of others. I pray that the soul of my dearly beloved child may be bound up in the bond of eternal life, together with the souls of all the righteous that are in Your keeping. Amen.


O merciful G-d, I fondly recollect the happy years spent with my dear brother, sharing the love and traditions of our home and family. Alas, death claimed you too soon and removed you too early from those who loved you. Though You have called him back, O G-d, I shall always hold sacred the memories of his kindness and sincerity, love an devotion. O Lord, grant that the recollection of his life provide an incentive to righteous living. I place my trust in You who are the source of all life and my strength in time of sorrow. Though a link has been severed from our family chain, help me, O G-d, to be more closely united with those dear ones who remain. May the soul of my beloved brother be bound up in the bond of eternal life together with the souls of all the righteous that are in Your keeping. Amen.


Marci Scher said...

Shara Freeman Thinking of you & Brian & Becca and the rest of the family today!

Chandra Sacks Juarez Beautiful prayers.

Michelle Kampler Schwartz Heartfelt stuff, Marci Weinberg Scher. <3

Leslie Kapper Sands Thinking of you through this difficult time!

Eileen Lewin Kalkstein Thinking of you.

Denise Zemlak Beveridge Hugs always !!

Marci Scher said...

Alicia Katznelson Broth Oh, Marci. (((Hugs)))

Heather Schmidt Young *hugs*

Sandra Huller Hugs, love and strength ❤️

Rachel Rosenberg Sending hugs and love you all of you. Wish I could be there!

Tanya Dagan Sending hugs your way

Stacy Smith Haynes Strength and love my friend.

Connie McElroy Lippenholz Hugs & more hugs my friend. We love you.

Jacqueline Cohen Thoughts r with u.

Tracey Lamberg Robbins Thinking of you all. Sending lots of hugs.

Danielle Houseal Thinking of you guys.

Carrie Levin Weitzman My heart is with you!

Rivky Flamm Love you all ❤️ ❤️

Carye George Everett Thinking of you, my friend. Sending you hugs.

Jennifer Koziar Frisch Hugs and prayers

Barbara Levin Thinking of you and sending love

Erin Batton Bull ❌ ⭕️

Katie Cullen McGoey Prayers and blessings to you all on this weekend and forever. 💜 💜 💜

Sharon Gross Thinking of you with lots of love and hugs ❤️

Sheri Sandbank Green Sending hugs to all of you.

Teri Ershler Gitlitz Thinking of you and praying for your continued strength.

Eden Stotsky-Himelfarb Thinking of you. Hugs.

Michaelle Crumbacker Leone Blessings, prayers and ((hugs)) to you, B. & B.

Marci Phillips Our thoughts are with you.

Cathy Sultzbaugh Thomas Thinking of you today.

Sally Weintraub Grobani Sending you hugs and prayers for strength...

Nancie Leibowitz Sending hugs

Marlene Ettlin ❤️ ❤️ 💜

Barbara Paige Unfortunately our love is often matched by our grief. I know your love is greater and will get you through.

Samantha Gitli Schaefer Thinking of you, and sending hugs and strength to you and the family.

Kim Brandwin Prayers of strength and love sent your way.

Marci Scher said...

Lisa Reid Miller So sorry! Praying for strength and comfort 🙏🏻

Amy Frid Moore Thinking of you. (( hugs ))

Mindy Nacht Torres Much love prayers and strength sent your way

Emily Michelson Levin Sending love and hugs to you and your family.

Ayme Ay Smith Lederman Thinking of you and your family

Linda Lennon Frasciello Thoughts prayers and hugs to you and your family

Sharon Cohen Thinking of you!

Michelle Kampler Schwartz Thinking if you guys with lots of love. You can do this. Ian is tightly holding his end of the string and is proud of his family. I really believe that. 💓 💓

Sheri Pazornik Goldscher As always, thinking of you and sending prayers of strength and love... ❤️

Harry Blacker Prayers n love to all. Wish i knew of the date so i could of been there at the unveiling. Take care and G-d bless u

Susan Keeney Cobbler Hugs and prayers to all of you today. Your village is here for you, always.

Julie Onnembo Hugs and love to youall.

Jessica Lynn Thinking of you and your beautiful family!

Mary Engel Crumbacker Hugs and prayers.

Lesley Winer Bogash Thinking of you Marci Weinberg Scher and your family.

Melissa Shenker Berman Think of you

Daean Menke ((((((( 💛 💛))))))))

Jodi Postol Love you all.

Andy Cooper Wishing you all strength and sending our love

Julie Kaplan Parent Love you and thinking of you all today ❤️ ❤️

Charles R Hentz Love you guys.

Irene Summers Gordon Gellar You and your family are in my thoughts and my heart today, as always.

Kelly Luckabaugh Thinking of you all ❤

Sallie Brovitz-Palmer Sending (((Hugs))) , love, and prayers your way.

Julie Brandt- Crumbacker Keeping your family in my thoughts!

Franny Lerner Sending love, so sorry for your sorrow.

Stacy Birnbaum Schwartz ditto, Teri

Doug Spegal Know that your difficulty is not in falling to your knees and suffering but it will be in getting up off your knees and living your life. You will get back up.

Chandra Sacks Juarez Marci, hugs and prayers.

Marci Scher said...

Eric Schloss You and your entire family are in my thoughts today.

Susan Schneider Havelock Thinking of you....

Wendy Elover ❤ ❤ ❤

Cheryl Opsahl You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Lara Turkel Fruman Thinking of you and Ian's legacy. Xoxo

Stacy Berman Lunenfeld Thinking of all of you. What a strong family you are. I think about Ian often.

Susan Heneson Kornblatt Thinking of you and your wonderful family. Sending comfort and strength.

Laurie Fox Schimmel Your family is so strong! Thank you for continued to sharing your story

Susan Brooks Cohen Hugs. You are all amazing strong but it is ok to break down too.

Ilene Chupnick Sznajderman Sending hugs and prayers!

Jamie Leboe Thinking of you always

Bryna Spector Bernstein Whenever you need to vent .......

Sharon Ziman Thinking of all of you ❤️

Sara Alima Ostrow Thinking of you all

Reesa Greenberg Szikman Thinking of you all today and every day..hugs!

Leslie Kapper Sands Love and hugs to all of you! ❤️

Jennifer Larsen Orlando Thinking of you all ❤

Britta Hubbard Hoffman Strength and prayers coming your way!

Karen Garelick Wolfe Thinking about you

Anna Gaeger Coleman Praying for comfort during this time!

Arlene Brown Stein Thinking of you

Amy Ziman Yankellow Thinking of you and your family.

Harriett Slatow Always thinking of all of you ❤️

Lori Kaplan Thinking of you, Brian and your families.