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64 Examples of Disenfranchised Grief

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Disenfranchised grief is a term that was coined by grief researcher, Ken Doka, about twenty years ago. He defines disenfranchised grief as,
"Grief that persons experience when they incur a loss that is not or cannot be openly acknowledged, socially sanctioned or publicly mourned."
He suggests this can happen for a number of reasons that, for the most, fall into one (or sometimes more) of the following categories: The loss isn't seen as worthy of grief (ex. non-death losses)The relationship is stigmatized (ex. partner in an extramarital affair)The mechanism of death is stigmatized (ex. suicide or overdose death)The person grieving is not recognized as a griever (ex. co-workers or ex-partners)The way someone is grieving is stigmatized (ex. the absence of an outward grief response or extreme grief responses) Now, what is interesting about this definition is that it allows for much variability. Disenfranchised grief is not black-or-white, rather it is a re…