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64 Self-Care Ideas for Grievers
Self care is pretty important. Many of us are  -- overstressed, overworked, overtired and underpaid. Which is why looking at self-care in a realistic a way as possible, favoring ideas and activities that are easy and accessible.
64 SELF-CARE IDEAS FOR GRIEVERS 1. Take a walk: Hike in the woods, on a local nature trail, or around the neighborhood. The exercise will do you good and you never know what you'll see or who you'll meet. 2. Take a nap: The National Sleep Foundation says a short nap of 20-30 minutes can help to improve mood, alertness and performance.  3. Smile: Did you know the simple act of smiling (even without a reason) can make you feel happy? 4. Read: A 2009 study showed that it took participants only six minutes to relax once they started reading. For the purposes of stress relief, it is suggested you forgo heavy texts for a good novel, spiritual/religious reads, or self-help books. 5. Play: What is play? It's any purposeless kind of fun. 6. G…

64 Movies About Grief and Loss

The movies are so different and diverse, which is of no surprise because grief is so unique from person to person. Technically, not all these movies are about grief and loss, but they all depict elements of the emotional struggles around death, dying, grief, and bereavement. 

1. Steel Magnolias
M'Lynn (Sally Field) is the mother of bride-to-be Shelby Eatenton (Julia Roberts), and as friend Truvy Jones (Dolly Parton) fixes the women's hair for the ceremony, they welcome a helping hand from aspiring beautician Annelle Dupuy Desoto (Daryl Hannah). Diabetic Shelby has a health scare, which is averted but doesn't bode well for her hopes of having children. Time passes, and the women and their friends encounter tragedy and good fortune, growing stronger and closer in the process. 
2. Beaches
Hillary (Barbara Hershey) and CC (Bette Midler) meet as children vacationing in Atlantic City, N.J., and remain friends throughout the decades. As CC, a loud New Yorker, pursues a singing career…

64 Children’s Books About Death and Grief

When grief hits a family, children often become the focus - how to talk to them about death, how to recognize if they are grieving "normally", how to create open communication and dialogue, etc. When adults as asked what they need in their grief often their first response is what they need for their children. WYG has a number of articles offering this type of support. They have posts on the impact of age on understanding, on grief journals and workbooks for kids, on the risks of using euphemisms, on art activities for grieving kids, on talking to kids about suicide, and on holiday activities for kids. They also have an article reminding us why it is important to take care of yourself in order to better care for the children in our life. 
Sometimes a story is the best way to open a dialogue regarding grief. Often reading a story can help kids know they are not alone and normalize what they are experiencing. It can offer a safe way to open a dialogue with …

Children's Grief Awareness Day: 64 Six-Word Stories

The third Thursday in November is Children's Grief Awareness Day! No worries if you have never heard of it, if you visit the Children's Grief Awareness Day website you can get a ton of great information, but here are some basics. According to the CGAD website, the history of the day goes like this:

Created in 2008 by the High mark Caring Place, A Center for Grieving Children, Adolescents and Their Families, and since recognized by organizations around the world, Children's Grief Awareness Day is observed every year on the third Thursday in November (the Thursday before the U.S. holiday of Thanksgiving). This time of year, particularly, appreciate time to support grieving children because the holiday season is often an especially difficult time after a death.
Children's Grief Awareness Day seeks to bring attention to the fact that often support can make all the difference in the life of a grieving child. It provides an opportunity for all of us to raise awareness of the …

64 Thoughts on Individual Worth and Forgiveness
The connection between forgiveness and grief may not seem that intuitive, but anyone who's dealt with guilt, regret, stigma, anger, self-absorption, family conflict or a general pissed-off-ness at the world should understand. We all need a little forgiveness, the kind of forgiveness depends on our situation. Perhaps it's forgiveness for ourselves, for our deceased loved one(s), for our family and friends, for our G-d or for circumstances we can't change.

Sometimes when we feel so mad, so unable to trust, so worthless and dejected, so ashamed, so angry at ourselves, so angry at our loved ones and their stupid mistakes, so mad at people who say stupid things and don't understand, so abandoned by the people and things that were supposed to protect us and keep us safe, forgiveness can be hard to find. Some things will always seem unforgivable, but carrying around the stress of anger and resentment only enables those things to hurt you further.

Here are …

64 Myths About Grief That Just Need to STOP

Grief me crazy. There are just so many of them, they come out in so many ways, and they make our grief so much more difficult. Friends and family have unrealistic expectations about what our grief will look like because of these myths. Heck, sometimes WE have unrealistic expectations because of these myths.   

Disclaimer: what makes many of the things on this list of myths is that they are not universally true. This does not mean they are never true. This is a very important distinction, so keep it in mind as you read. Also, there are some common themes with these myths so, where applicable, the myths have been clustered by theme if it made sense to do so.

Grief has an endpoint. Sorry friends, grief is forever. This isn't a bad thing, though! It just means that when we lose something we loved deeply, that loss will be with us in some way forever. Grief may feel different or become more manageable, but it will always be there and that's okay. Too bad people often ma…