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How to Heal By Carrying Your Grief

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Grief expert Nancy Berns explains why we don't need closure to heal from loss. Rather, we can find freedom by carrying our joy and our grief together.

Let me tell you about Tim. 15 years ago Tim's wife died, they were in their 40s. Recently I sat down and asked him about his grief he told me this.

He said "there's not a day that goes by that I don't think of her. Our lives would be different now. What would she look like? What would she be doing? What would she think of about this? What would she think about that?" I asked him "does this surprise you? That 15 years later you think of her every day?" He said "No. No, we were just too close for me not to."

If you were listening to Tim, what would you say to him? What would you be thinking? Many people in our culture might think that Tim is stuck in his grief, that he needs closure so he can move forward. But Tim would tell you he's doing just fine, he's happily remarried,…