Four Things About Grief That Never Change

Still Standing Mag

These years have taught me that there are some things about grief that will never, ever change.

1. There are always triggers.
There will still be triggers.

2. The intensity of grief doesn't ever completely disappear.

3. People become less and less tolerant of your grief.

4. Your grief is PART of who you are ---
but does not DEFINE who you are.

You choose what you show.

Don't give death or social norms or expectations or people's judgments that power.

You define your grief.

And that never changes.